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New Year’s Resolutions: Children’s and Parents

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New Year ResolutionsSo, it’s that time of year again and we’re discussing New Year’s resolutions.  My children tend to overhear all of our conversations these days and later asked me what a resolution is.

I explained that a resolution is a promise.  It is a promise that you make to yourself.  It is a tradition that many people do at the beginning of the New Year. They seemed intrigued.  “Why make a resolution?  What’s the point?” they asked.

I explained that if you’re able to keep the resolution you make, you feel good; generally you’re doing something commendable either for yourself or someone else.  That is the point.  They then asked if I could give them a couple of examples.  I said, "How about eating at least one fruit and one vegetable every day (thank you American Academy of Pediatrics!)."  My kids asked if that meant every day for the whole year.  I said, "Yes."  It seemed a bit overwhelming to them.  I wondered if for my kids, I could break it down into monthly resolutions. I asked if they would want to make a resolution for the month of January.   "Only the month of January?” the kids inquired. Okay, that didn’t seem totally impossible.  After some thought, my son said he would rinse with fluoride rinse twice a day in January. He just got braces and I have been pestering him about this daily. My daughter, who had been quietly listening to most of the conversation, finally spoke up and explained to me that they discussed resolutions in school and she promised her teacher that she would not talk in the hallways. Wasn’t that enough?  Absolutely.  So the kids are on their way to trying to keep a New Year’s Resolution.

I then told my children that my New Year's Resolution (promise to myself) was to be more myself!  My kids were confused.  "Aren't you always yourself, mom?" Not really.  Now how do I explain that to my kids?  I know that they were thinking "Who do you turn into ... batwoman?  A big green monster?" I explained that I sometimes do or say things that don't make me feel good and when that happens, I am not myself.  For example, sometimes I react to something someone says and I need to remind myself to ‘pause’ (take a moment) and decide who do I want to be in this moment.  Oh!  Fine mom, whatever you want.  Ah, if it were only that easy.

While I had my children’s attention, I then asked if they were interested in making a resolution to make the world around them better.  Where we live in Seattle, everyone composts and the city picks up the compost bins weekly.  This is a new concept for me and I know that it helps make the world a better place.  I told my children that I was going to be more aware about composting and try to do it. My son said that he would recycle more. He is very conscientious about recycling, but if he feels that he can do better, so be it. My daughter said she would clean up her room more. Technically, that counts, right? Both are making the world around them better.

I have also decided to make some parenting resolutions. Hopefully, these will improve the life of my children and my own life as well

Number one: I will no longer tell my children to stop whining.  My kids don’t realize they are whining and the only person it bothers is me. But I will get over it.

Two: I will no longer tell them to stop fighting. My kids don’t physically fight, they argue.  I am now telling myself they are learning negotiation skills.

And three: I will no longer tell them to hurry up. The more I ask, it seems, the slower they go.

With letting go of all of this, I will take the newfound freedom in my head and go meditate, get a massage, or drink a glass of wine.

Come to think of it, I hereby resolve to do all three.


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New Year’s Resolutions: Children’s and Parents

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